Mend Your Broken Heart – Try Something New

It only take three weeks to start a new habit and that means it also only takes three weeks to stop any bad ones. If you are still mooning over your ex and obsessing over every little thing that went wrong – STOP right now!!! Although it’s quite natural to feel hurt for a long time after a losing someone we love, we have to get up and begin to live again. So get out of those ugly sweatpants and put away the junk food, it’s time to start some new habits and try something new to mend your broken heart!

First of all we need to stop some of the bad habits we are currently doing. Are you constantly checking Facebook or Twitter to see what is going on in your ex’s life? Are you casually bringing them up in conversations with friends you still share? When our hearts are broken we want our ex to feel the same way, we want them to miss us as much as we miss them. Well, if you want to heal you have to make a conscious effort to break these habits. Whenever you are feeling that pull to check online or to bring up your ex, pinch yourself. Not lightly but hard! You have to begin make yourself aware of these bad habits so you can stop them.

Now that our arms are all red from pinching ourselves we need to start some new habits to help distract us from the ones we are trying to break. We need to begin to feel good about ourselves again so the first habit we should get into is complementing ourselves. I know this will feel weird at first but sit down and write 10 things about yourself that are good. It could be as simple as this:

10 Great things about me:

1. I have great …
2. I’m really good at …
3. I really love my…
4. My … really kicks butt!
5. I’ve very good at …
6. I really look good in …
7. I’m very ….
8. I’m also very …
9. One of my best skills is/are…
10. My … is/are my best feature.

Now every morning you are going to get up and look in the mirror and repeat these 10 things and don’t squint your face up as you do it, act like you mean it! The more you say it the more you’ll begin to believe it and begin to like yourself again.

Next we are going to join something new. Is there something you have always wanted to try? Running, rock climbing, creative writing or learning to cook? Choose something fun, you will not only learn a new skill but you will be forced to meet new people. These people are going to get to know you as “single” you, not “couple” you.

Trying something new and beginning new habits will give you something else to concentrate on beside what is going on with your ex. Try these 2 things for 3 weeks and see how you begin to feel. Are you feeling more confident? Are you thinking about your ex less often? We are just beginning to retrain how we feel about ourselves and healing our broken hearts takes time.

Check out Amelie Chance’s Step to Heal Program for more tips on healing your broken heart.

Tagged as: breakups, forgiveness, healing my broken heart, losing someone