How do you get your ex back? How can you make them realize what you had was so great? This is your key to making up with them and mending your broken heart.
First of all, you have to recognize that whatever happened, you were both at fault. If they were not giving you what you needed then you may have looked for it elsewhere and cheated on them. If they cheated, you were the one not giving what they needed. Yes, the cheater is morally culpable for the cheating. The person who was cheated on should not hold the soul responsibility. The fault should lie in both party’s laps.
Learning to forgive and forget is very important. True forgiveness means that you let go of all of the anger related to the incident. You never bring it up again. You must remember the past is the past and don’t let it cloud your relationship. If you can’t let it go then it will be much more difficult to truly make up.
If the incident was your fault, apologize and really truly mean it. Too many times, after people say “I’m sorry,” there’s an “Oops I did it again,” moment. You’re not Britney Spears. It’s not cute. When you say you are sorry, you have to commit to changing. You can forget about getting them back if you don’t commit to changing.
Be prepared to chase them a little bit. This doesn’t mean sending them hundreds of text messages or stalking them, but you have got to show them that you are still interested if you want to get them back. You can’t expect them to come running back just because you have sent out some modest signals that you are ready to re-start the relationship. Put your ego in check and put your heart on the line.
You may have to settle for something less than you wanted. It may be that they are only ready to be friends when you want a full fledged partner. It might take awhile to build that trust up again. If this is the case, you need to give them the space they need to get to know you again. Accept that you have to take what they are offering right now if you want to eventually get them back.
Lastly, when trying to get someone back you have to know when to stop trying and heal your broken heart. Sometimes, you just have to move on. If you are in the position where your partner is unable to forgive you you must be willing to let go and begin looking for new relationships. Even though this will break your heart, sometimes it’s the best thing for you. Making up with them may stop you from meeting your true soul mate, who may be out there waiting for you!
