Are you having trouble getting over a guy and need help to mend your broken heart? Letting go of someone who you had a close relationship with is very hard, whether you broke up with him or he dumped you. The void you experiencing in your heart and life cannot be instantly filled with just anything or anyone. Nonetheless, people do heal from these relationships and move on. All it takes is the following five steps to get over the guy you still like.
Letting out the hurt is the first step you need to take. Understand that it is okay to cry when you are struggling to get over a guy. Writing about the pain helps, so some people keep a journal of their experiences.
One very effective healing method that I have seen some people do is to write a long letter to the ex boyfriend about their relationship. The letter must include the good times and the bad times. Talk about the relationship and how he hurt you. Allow yourself to release it all. Burn the letter as soon as you have finished it. That’s right. Don’t even think about sending it to your ex. Alternatively, let the flames burn up the letter. Closure to the relationship is what this offers.
The decision that the relationship is over is a decision you now must make. You will never get over this guy and move on, if you continue to hold on to the thought that he will change and come back to you.
Do something that symbolizes the finality of the end of the relationship. An excellent case in point is to take all the personal property that you have of the ex boyfriend’s and exchange it. Do not keep that oh so comfort, over sized t-shirt of his that you sleep in. The items like toothbrushes are too minor to exchange, so throw them out. Clear your place of his entire things. It is a way of clearing him from your life.
You need to depend on your friends through this time. Girlfriends are forever whereas guys will come and go until you meet your husband. You may have unintentionally ignored your friends for a time, if you have been in a hot and heavy relationship. Reconnecting with your girlfriends will not only be good for your social life but they will help you get over the guy.
You will learn that your girlfriends will have experienced break ups similar to yours. Sharing their pain will help you understand that, however bad the hurt you are experiencing, others have survived and you will too.
You will quite possibly have some extra time on your hands now that you are single. Your relationship occupied a lot of your time. Use this time productively to get over the guy. Take an exercise class and get in shape, or take up a new hobby.
During this transition period, one of the best things you can do is join a group or a class. Not only does a class take up the time you would have spent with your ex, but it also introduces you to a new circle of friends.
The final and best step is moving on when you want to get over a guy. Among the new friends you make in your class or hobby, your old friends and the activities you do to fill up your time, you will come out as a new person.
The best way to mend your broken heart and get over a guy is moving on.
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hi …im getting a hard time in moving on for someone who really hurts me so much …we’ve been together for just 1 year but because of the love i have for him i give all the i have even myself we have 1 daughter right now.. when my parents find out that i was pregnant …what do you expect obviously they are angry/mad at him he tried to talk to my parents but my parents refuse to… that time i was 6 months pregnant for 3 months im waiting for him to knock in our door ….im waiting for his text message…but for the remaining 3 months he just remained quite …that time i feel so depress..i don’t want to go outside our house..to face my friends because im afraid to received judgments from them….for that remaining 3 months i still hoping that everything will be back again…for that 3 months he do nothing …im like a child asking for attention from him…and it really hurts me …he promise me whatever will happen he will always be at my side..:(…..but i still love him and believing in his words that he loves me so much….but until the day that i would give birth even his shadow i didn’t see…. and as the time goes by i realize that i wasted my time my love for him…im trying to move on and now that it heals the wound one by one and now here he goes again coming back to me asking for my forgiveness and to love him again …but he really hurts me so much….and now he said to me that he loves me ,he wants to be with us…and my heart says its all lie i feel that he never really love and care for me …now im trying to forget everything and to become a better person but he will come again and hurt me and fall me to the ground again too go back to zero…. i dont know how to move on and to forget all the hurts that i experience because of him i dont want to have a feeling of angry and take a revenge i just want to move on and get over him but his trying to make me confuse again by saying i love you and i miss you :’((
Stephanie, I believe you have to trust yourself, if you want to move on then you should. You are a different girl now than the one he left, much stronger, so you need to believe in yourself that you have made the right decision for you and your baby.
If you do decide to give it another try, take it very slow, he has to earn your trust back. You need to know that he will be there when you and the baby need him, not just now but for the long run as well. You will have to be very honest with him and let him know that, if he does truly love you and want to be with you then he will accept this and agree to take it slow.